Cary Tennis is awesome

words of wisdom from Salon's advice columnist, Cary Tennis today, to a woman dealing with the potential that her two-year-old is autistic, but as always with Cary, the words resonate beyond this single situation:

Don't so much try to live with reality; just try to let reality live with you. It will do what it needs to do, reality will; it doesn't need your help. It doesn't even need your permission. Just make some space for it so it doesn't crowd you out.

yes. quite.